Skinny Thinking Daily Thoughts — #2

These 242 thoughts are daily reminders to help you align with your true self and cultivate a wise, pragmatic relationship with food and your body.

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How do you relate to food? As a lover, a friend, a god, an
enemy, a source of nutrition? What is your image of yourself in
relationship to food? What are the thoughts and self-images that
mediate between you and food? When you remove all of the
thoughts and images that mediate between you and food, what’s
left? Just a simple, pragmatic relationship with food.

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Food Matrix — List Your Comfort Foods

Food Matrix of Pleasure/Comfort Foods

 

Physically & Emotionally

Addictive

Emotionally Addictive
Food made with sugar and/or chocolate such as: Salty fried foods:
Bakery goods Potato chips
Ice cream French fries
Candy Fried chicken
Chocolates Salty foods:
Soft drinks Pretzels
Milk shakes Popcorn
Starchy foods:
Bread
Pancakes
Waffles
Grits
Salty fatty foods:
Butter
Cheese
Nuts and nut butters
Hamburgers
Hot dogs
Fatty starchy foods:
Pizza
Quesadillas

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DAY 2 – How Do You Think About Food?

Friends-
Freedom is Possible isn’t it?
You have begun your journey and now you are on your way!  Here, in Day 2  you will be taking your First Step:  Wise Thinking
 
Congratulations!
You are about to take the first step on your exciting journey toward freedom and healing. Imagine how you will feel when you arrive. Worries about food and your weight are now relics of your past. What a relief! If you put The Five Steps into practice, I promise you that feeling of freedom will be your everyday experience.

The First Step: Wise Thinking is my all time favorite because it was the piece of the puzzle that I had been missing for thirty-five years. If you truly want to heal your food and weight issues, Wise Thinking is the opportunity you’ve been waiting for. If you don’t address it, chances are you’ll keep yo-yoing and never heal permanently.

To fully embrace it means creating an entirely new, healthy mental relationship with food. Fasten your seatbelt and get ready to heal!

In this chapter you’ll learn how to think differently about food and, hopefully, think very little about it, if at all, when it’s not time to eat. You’ll do this by busting through your food illusion and coming to see the truth, the whole picture about food.

Once you see the truth, there’s no going back. You’ll learn helpful strategies to stop wearing a path to the fridge, such as recognizing when the Pleasure Seeking Child is on the scene and learning to ignore her, speaking and living from your heart, connecting with a life purpose that feels engaging and fulfilling, feeding your soul rather than overfilling your stomach, and implementing kung fu for cravings and emotional eating. Without further ado, let’s begin!

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Skinny Thinking — Daily Thoughts #1

These 242 thoughts are daily reminders to help you align with your true self and cultivate a wise, pragmatic relationship with food and your body.

1.
There’s a way of thinking about food that’s a problem, and a
way of thinking about it that isn’t a problem, and the
problematic way corresponds to feeling out of control around
food and to having a heavier body. Your relationship with food,
which is based on how you think about it, makes all the
difference. You have different relationships with your mother,
your brother, your friend, your boss, and your lover, and you
think about all of those people differently. In the same way, you
have an easy or challenging relationship with food, depending
on the way you habitually think about it.

DAY 1 — Five Minute Freedom Exercise

It’s Day 1 of your Skinny Thinking Challenge!
 
Congratulations!
Here is your Five Minute Freedom Exercise for Day.
You will also find that this exercise has been provided in an attachment for you to print and work on separately.
To make the best use of these Daily Exercises, it is advised to print the attached and keep each days exercise together in a folder or notebook so you can have a record of your journey to changing your relationship with food, weight and your body.
Enjoy Day 1~
Laura
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Accountability Partner

An accountability partner is a person who coaches another person in terms of helping the other person keep a commitment

Ever since I won the 6-week challenge where I had to lose 20 pounds in 42 days I’ve been having a hard time staying consistent with my exercise and meals. I knew one of the reasons I could lose 22.4 pounds in those 42 days was because money was on the line. If I didn’t win the challenge I would lose my $497.00 deposit. There was no way I was going to allow that. I was determined and while it was hard –very hard—at times I still was focused on my goal.

So now with no prospect of winning my money back I am left on my own accord. At first I thought I could do it on my own but I am seeing that that this isn’t working. I am failing and it’s quickly showing. 😦
But not anymore. Last week John and I decided to be Accountability Partners. He has seen me struggling. Being unmotivated, unfocused and, to put it simply, drifting away because I have no daily structure or goals.

“A significant predictor of whether people are going to stay on an exercise program is if they have a friend (either an individual or group) who works out with them. Getting people connected to each other is critical.”

We are social animals by nature, and if we promise someone we will meet them at the gym, we feel really guilty if we do not keep our promise. Research shows that having an accountability partner or exercise buddy can be highly effective at ensuring we will actually workout, not just talk about it.

Dr. Robert Cialdini is a well-known social psychologist, who has written a great deal about “social influence” and decision-making. His studies show that

  1. Peer pressure is powerful, especially when the decisions we are making are complex or ambiguous,
  2. The closer we are to the person or group we are comparing ourselves to, the more likely we are to be influenced by them.

“It turns out this peer pressure thing, when you turn up the “accountability” knob, is a motivator for a lot more than losing a few pounds. Compared to mentorship—a more hierarchical relationship—a peer to peer relationship seems to be easier to organize, and it is a more effective tool for making progress towards a goal. Accountability partnerships work when they are a collaboration between two colleagues who like and respect one another—your partner is someone you trust, who will keep you honest and moving on a path you set for yourself.”

Setting up an accountability partnership is simple:

  1. Find someone you trust to be your accountability partner (a different personality from you is good, maybe better).  — My AP will be John.
  2. Talk to them about your goals.  — To be fit, healthy, and lose weight.
  3. Get specific with them about actions you will want to take to meet your goals as well as consequences/rewards for taking or not taking them.  — Hmmm consequences or rewards?  Did we talk about these? 
  4. Set up regular check-in times (this can be a text message, no need to meet every time). — We decided on daily emails.
  5. Revisit goals and strategies every once in a while, to make sure you are on track.

This how we are going to achieve our goals.

  1. I will anchor my day with my workout. Put my gym clothes first thing in the morning and then take a picture to show him I am ready to go.
  2. I will plan to take the 9 am class every day when I am not coming home from work.
  3. I can skip my workout when I am coming home from work at 8 am.
  4. I will follow a meal plan of my choice (mostly low carb).
  5. We will share our food and exercise log every day to keep us accountable and stay on track.
  6. We will be allowed to have a cheat meal once a week. 🙂

Now we just need a name. Any ideas?

The 91 Day Skinny Thinking Challenge

Three days ago, I was cleaning up an old Gmail account, one that I used when I was in my vegetarian phase, and I saw a series of emails from Laura Katleman-Prue.
The emails consisted of a 91 Day Skinny Thinking Challenge. I had forgotten about signing up for the challenge, over two years ago! LOL
I think it will be good and fun for me to do this and I am going to start today.   Yes, today because truly Christmas day is just another holiday.

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Freedom Is Possible

Yes, it is possible to be free from obsession with food and body
weight! It is possible to live without worrying about what you will
eat next, whether it will make you fat, or whether you’ll have the
willpower to eat in a way that keeps you from busting out of your jeans.
The subject of this workbook is seeing the whole truth about food
and what’s been going on in your relationship with it. No matter
how long you’ve been struggling with food, you don’t have to take
your eating, weight, and body image issues to your grave. You can
free yourself of them for good. All you have to do is follow the
Five Steps by incorporating the daily five-minute exercises into
your daily routine. How hard is it to find an extra five minutes a
day? Aren’t you worth it? You can do this!

 What can you expect over the next 91 Days? 

You will be receiving daily emails with your Five Minute Freedom
Exercises inside.  These exercises will help you stay on track and
progress throughout the 91 Days of the Skinny Thinking Challenge.

Skinny Thinking Book

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This is the book that accompanies the 91 Day Skinny Thinking Challenge.
You can buy the paperback through Amazon or download for free here and add it to your eReader – that is if you are interested.


What is your relationship with food?
How do you relate to food?
As a lover, a friend, a god, an enemy, a source of nutrition? What is your image of yourself in relationship to food? What are the thoughts and self-images that mediate between you and food? When you remove all of the thoughts and images that mediate between you and food, what’s left? Just a simple, pragmatic relationship with food. That is the goal of Skinny Thinking: to help you develop a simple, pragmatic relationship with food.

This book is not about formulating a newfangled eating or exercise plan that will deliver the perfect body to please the ego, like so many other diet books are. It is about forming a new, rational relationship with food, weight, and your body that is free from past suffering and worries. The good news is that Getting Skinny with Skinny Thinking is not a new fad or trend. If you put the Five Steps that you will soon learn into practice, you will keep your healthy, thinner body permanently and end the yo-yoing forever.

Good Bye Iced Caramel Macchiato

Last month I found this totally amazing drink – a beautiful honey-colored iced caramel macchiato. As I sipped it I felt my inner Italian come alive. In my opinion it’s a perfect mix of sweet, salty with a rich and deeply roasted coffee flavors.
Just YUM!

Oh and it’s so pretty to look at.
caramel-macchiato
I’ve tried both the iced and hot versions but I decided that iced is the way to go. You see when they squirt the caramel into the cold drink it doesn’t mix (as it does when it’s hot) but instead it clumps and hardens a bit and every once in a while you get this awesome little piece of soft caramel in your mouth.
Mmmmm so yummy.  I love getting that surprise unexpected little treat.

I was hooked after the first one and sadly I have indulged in this drink way more often than one should.
Seriously, I am addicted and… sigh I knew after this weekend I had to give it up. It was a bittersweet moment when I bought my caramel macchiato Sunday night before heading to work. I made sure I savored it to the very end.

The reason that I have to give it up is because I am finally feeling healthy enough to go and workout and if I want to make a difference in my weight (and my health) I need to give this and other comfort foods up. I need to start eating healthy again.

Oh my sweet yummy caramel macchiato…. I love you, I will miss you, but we can’t be no more.

Our love affair must come to end.

Good bye Iced Caramel Macchiato.

Inconsistent

conflict

To battle these two sides of me isn’t easy. 😦
Bottom line I need to heal. I’ll take a few days off to do what I need to do and then I need to move forward. I need to heal.
Perhaps to truly heal, I need to align my mind, body and spirit so they all work together in harmony. In this way I will be able to perceive and act from my true self, as opposed to acting from my ego, or subconscious.

I think that the most important thing is for me to be aware of “the present” the “now moment”. Instead of allowing my thoughts to drift to the past or even the future. I know that is my demise.

What I need to do is to be aware of what is happening here, right now. If I am able to keep aware of these events, in all these moments, I might be able to heal and not care if other people know how torn and broken I am.